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Top 5 Dating Tips

1.    Be open minded! O.K. so you want a George Clooney or Angelina Jolie look alike but let’s get real they have their off days too! The best way to approach new friends or potential partners is with a completely open mind. Does it feel comfortable when you are together? Do you make each other laugh? Do you have the same values? When you become a full member you can even take our personality tests and then match yourself to people who are compatible with you which is a great tool to help you not waste your valuable time. The automatch service shows you people according to your search criteria that live near to you so it makes finding friends so much easier. Be bold don’t look for a replica of your ex perhaps you need to break the pattern and find someone more caring.

2.    Value yourself! Don’t hang around for Mr/Miss wasting your time just because you had a great first date. Let’s face it if they don’t ring, e-mail when they say they will, if they are too busy for  another date then they are just not that into you but are afraid to tell the truth. We can waste our lives waiting for the phone to ring or him/her to sort out their previous relationship. Cut your losses just say your time is valuable and you are not prepared to wait and move on. Send another e-mail or wink to another few people. Remember they are privileged to have you contacting them don’t undersell yourself.

3.     Keep the past in the past! Obviously anyone on the dating scene may have had previous relationships which didn’t last but the kiss of death is the date that won’t shut up about their last partner. This is a date not a counselling session and if they want a shoulder to cry on  do the friendly thing find out the telephone number of your local branch of Relate and give it to them. The truth is you are their future not an emotional crutch for their past so don’t accept it. Be polite and pleasant and say you would be happy to see them again when they have let go of the past. Remember the same applies to you.

4.    Don’t let sex takeover. We know those primal urges lurk beneath the surface but unless sex is all you want in a relationship don’t leap into bed until you are ready otherwise you may find your partner is keen for sex but nothing else because they haven’t had to try that hard. Ladies we might be living in the 21st century but men have to be the hunters if it is too easy to conquer your heart then they enjoy their time and move on quickly to someone who presents them with more of a challenge. Let them chase, however old fashioned that may be, and gentlemen don’t use dating as an excuse to put too many notches on your bedpost. You may like being a stud but if that’s all you are what does that say about you.

5.    Be positive! Realistically not everyone you contact or date will be right for you and sometimes you may be keen but they aren’t see number 2 tip above. Look statistically there are going to be a few non starters and disappointments along the way but don’t let this dishearten you. Remember the more action you take the more chance you have succeeding. Men on dating sites notoriously contact a large number of women and then refine their search women tend to play it safe and contact one or two and then fret when they don’t respond. Go for it just remember thousands of members are joining the site every day so your best friend or perfect partner could only be a click away. You will find someone special we can guarantee it and when you do please let us know.