Singles 40 Plus: Are you ready for love?

Many singles over 40 moan about their lack of success at online dating however what is vitally important is that you have the right attitude and are emotionally ready to form new relationships.
So to ensure you can really benefit from what has to offer read the following statements. If you agree with all of them, go forth and conquer. If not, pay attention to those areas you need to work on.
1. “I’m totally over my previous relationship.”
In order to be really available, you must be absolutely ready to move past your previous love and devote yourself to another person. That doesn’t mean you don’t honour your 40-year marriage that ended with the death of your spouse, but it does mean that you won’t be constantly comparing new women to your late wife or new men to the husband who left you for his secretary. The grief of losing someone is genuine and legitimate, but if you are still grieving, you are in no shape to meet someone new.
2. “I am not bitter about the past.”
When dating, most people want to avoid a person who comes with too much baggage. That’s the individual who’s still carrying the unpleasant events and feelings of their past relationships into the present. Bitterness in any form — even if justified — will send most new people running as fast as they can in the opposite direction.
3. “I don’t want to divulge everything about myself right away.”
People who reveal everything on a first, second or third date risk overburdening the fledgling relationship with too much information. Someone who has a chronic or life-threatening illness, for example, might feel compelled to talk about it, even during a first meeting. But this goes against the first rules of dating: Keep it light, and let your date see your most attractive characteristics first. There will be plenty of time to exchange more profound information, if there is enough interest and attraction between you.
4. “I know how to listen.”
Of course we all like to talk about ourselves and the things that interest us. But a common mistake is to be so overwhelming that the other person never gets to say anything about him or herself. Truly, the most winning way to get to know people is to get them to talk about themselves — and really listen closely. Ask questions; help them be comfortable with you, and then reciprocate. You need give and take, and being the life of the party isn’t required.
Wishing you love and happiness from all at

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