Confident Life

Let’s face it over 40 and all our insecurities about dating come rushing into our brains. Am I too fat, am I too thin? Why haven’t I met the right one yet? You know what I mean. All that idle chatter that appears in our brain as negative thoughts so you put off taking action for another day and time slips away like a thief in the night.

This site is called www.confidentlife.com because I passionately believe that is the key to life especially when you are little older and hopefully wiser and about to embark on 40 plus dating. To build up your confidence  the first thing you need  to do is do a mini audit of yourself. What are your good points, what are your bad points, physically and mentally. Physically accentuate your good points and try and reduce your bad points. Wear colours that suit you? Have a haircut and have a great photo done for your profile online. No don’t get a glamour photo for your online dating profile that is so totally different from the real you that people are aghast when they meet you and you can almost hear the intake of breath, but do get a professional looking head and shoulders photo taken and remember that black and white is always more flattering than colour. Please don’t upload a photo that was taken in a booth outside Sainsbury’s on a wet Friday evening whilst you kept one hand on your trolley and balanced the cheek of your bum on the wobbly seat. Guess what?- it won’t be flattering.

Mentally make a note where are you strong and where are you a little fuzzy. Are you kind but disorganised, fun but unpredictable? This can help you in finding someone who complements you and when you are together you get that feeling that you can conquer the world. Mature dating enables you to be more selective and  make contact with  people you really feel a connection with.

The most important thing is to take action, to upload your photo and complete your profile. On your profile don’t brag or exaggerate but don’t be too modest either. Stick to the facts. Who do you want to meet, what are your good points, you don’t have to mention your weaknesses here, what do you like to do for relaxation. Simple easy to read information that will make a prospective date say to themselves I want to know more and most importantly be confident about 40 plus dating. You are a great person. Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for and your time is now because now you are ready for love.