Confident Life

When it comes to online dating the one thing that can be the most difficult is writing your profile to upload on the site. Some people want to stand out by being  quirky others want to tell you everything they have achieved but if you want to be the most popular member on the site and have plenty of dates to choose from then keep it authentic, keep it real. Just sit for a few minutes and think about who you are and what  you like to do, then jot down random words that come into your head only when you have finished this exercise read them through and underline those that really feel like the “real you”.

From these words sort them into groups under the titles, “ Personality, Interests and Core Values”. Personality words can be phrases like enthusiastic and lively, quiet type, social animal, likes one to ones rather than large crowds. Your interests should be everything you like to do  not just certain activities you have been doing recently e.g. watching football, knitting. Include interests you may have taken for granted, a walk in the fresh air, browsing antique shops, getting dressed up these are still important and the more interests you put down the more three dimensional you become. Put them in your own words as well e.g.” freezing on the touchline watching my son play football on Saturday mornings” is far more powerful  and says so much more about you than just writing” watching sport”.

Finally look at the words that are left and see which fit under the title, “Core Values”. These are the qualities or inner characteristics that you cannot compromise e.g. honesty, loyalty and kindness. Interestingly for a successful relationship it is the core values that really matter, and couples can have very different personalities and interests but they need to agree on what really matters to live in harmony.

Then and only then write your profile. Start with “My friends would describe my personality as…. “this makes the reader what you are saying comes from the heart rather than the head. Then move to “What I like to do is” and name your interests using your own words. Finally end your profile by telling the reader what really matters to you e.g. kindness, honesty loyalty or whatever values you hold and most importantly end your profile with a phrase telling the audience that you want to meet people who share the same values.

If you follow this formula I can guarantee you will never be short of winks and e-mails.